Coping With Stress At Work: 5 Therapy Steps You Can Try

Work stress is common, estimated to affect up to 36% of Americans on a regular basis. And while experiencing some stress at work is normal, and even helpful at times – "good stress," after all, may keep you emotionally engaged in work projects – it can also become problematic if you’re dealing with it on a regular basis.

Working with a therapist can help you understand your own stressors, as well as learn tools to deal with them when they arise in everyday settings.

Here's how I work with clients to cope with stress at work – and steps you can try implementing on your own:

1. Identify your stresses, and stressors

The first step for overcoming work stress is to identify the stresses and stressors.

Some questions that are helpful to ask yourself include:

2. Recognize how the work affects you physically, as well as emotionally

Stress has a tendency to permeate into different aspects of the mind and the body.

Take some time to reflect on whether you notice any of these symptoms on a daily basis – some individuals find they have been chronically struggling with these physical and emotional manifestations of work stress.

Here are some common ways that it may show itself:

3. Explore how your past influences your present

Digging into our unconscious psychic factors can give us greater understanding of how our past experiences shape our current mood and functioning.

In therapy, this approach to understanding how our past influences our present is called psychodynamic therapy.

Ways to address your work stress from a psychodynamic perspective include:

4. Learn real-time techniques for managing stressors

Once we have an understanding of the deeper patterns in your life, we can then incorporate cognitive approaches – learned, skill-based techniques that address your concerns.

Borrowing from cognitive behavioral therapy, these skills help us better realistically access your everyday capacity to decrease stress.

Cognitive approaches to addressing work stress include:

5. Develop a stress management plan

Once you've explored these elements and identified these skills, you can develop a stress management plan that holistically considers your stressful work situation.

Specifically, a stress management plan will take into account: how your history affects your present, what mechanisms you have in place, and how you can use practical tools to overcome and build resilience, rather than add more stress.

Stress management plans include long-term factors, such as:

They also include elements that are applicable to everyday life, such as:

These steps are examples of the kind of work I do with clients in therapy for work stress. Many can be implemented independent of a therapist, and enhanced with the gentle guidance of a trained professional.

It's crucial not to wait until you're stressed out to start! We all know that we should eat healthy, exercise regularly and get good sleep, but often don’t do these things for various reasons.

Figure out what stops you from taking these steps, as these factors can affect your ability to deal with stress more effectively.

When searching for a therapist for work stress, prioritize comfort and calm

While most good therapists are able to deal with work stress, what is important is that you work with someone who makes you feel safe, is a calming presence amidst the storm you are feeling inside, and who can help you develop a plan.

Knowledge of the stresses of the workplace, such as someone who may have an employee assistance background, can be an extra plus.

Find a therapist for stress management near you

The following therapists specialize in stress management, and can help you identify your particular set of stressors, plus figure out how to cope with them in a professional manner:  

Acknowledge your work stress, find the source, and develop a plan to deal with it. Put it in proper perspective – is it a life or death matter? Are you healthy? Other things in your life  good?

Recognize and deal with the things you can control, and leave the rest. Sometimes that might mean leaving the job, which can be stressful, or freeing in itself! Ultimately, you and your well-being matter most!