Is My Therapist "The One?": How To Assess Fit With Your Therapist

It’s often easy to tell when a therapist is not the one for you – sometimes, all it takes is a few minutes to realize that it’s not the right fit.

On the other hand, knowing if you’ve found a great therapist can be more nuanced and difficult to tease apart.

A good therapist-client fit can be pinned down by asking yourself two broad questions:

  1. Do I feel a connection with this therapist?
  2. Am I making progress?

Ultimately, trust your gut to answer these questions. If you’re unsure, look for these concrete signs of a great therapist-client fit in order to decide if you want to develop an ongoing relationship with your therapist. Don’t expect to check off all of these factors– they’re just a few ideas to help you get started!

Do I feel a connection with this therapist?

Am I making progress?

After your first three therapy sessions, you should see some sort of progress. However, don’t expect to accomplish all of the milestones mentioned below overnight. Some may unfold throughout the course of therapy, but it depends on what you’re looking to get out of your therapy experience and the timeline you establish with your therapist. Some ways people measure therapy progress include:

If after a few sessions you can’t say you’ve made any progress and you’re not sure you feel a connection with your therapist, it may be time to let them know it isn’t working. It’s very common to have try out a few therapists before you find the one that clicks, but don’t give up! When you do feel a strong connection, you’ll start making progress towards your therapy goals.