The Wise Mind

Have you ever felt like your thoughts are buzzing and difficult to control, which causes anxiety? Or do you say things when you’re upset that you would never say when you’re calm? This describes how our emotions may change our thoughts or behaviors. In a way, we have different “minds” with which we act very differently, depending on how we feel emotionally.

This Wise Mind refers to the state of mind that best regulates emotions and manages behavior. It is a key concept used in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) which is a type of therapy that teaches clients to balance and tolerate opposites while decreasing black-and-white thinking.

Here are a few challenges and conditions that DBT can help with:

The Three States of Mind

Your mind has three states: the reasonable mind, the emotional mind, and the wise mind. Everyone possesses each of these states, but most people gravitate toward a specific one the majority of the time.

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How to develop your Wise Mind

While many people gravitate towards one of the minds, no one is stuck with only one way of experiencing the world. A person can strengthen the balance between the reasonable and emotional mind, thus developing the wise mind by:

Consider seeking support from a therapist

Because our reactions generally happen instantaneously, it can feel daunting to take on a new type of mind. You don’t have to do it alone. If your goal is to develop your wise mind, a therapist who specializes in DBT can work with you to find the balance between the two in order to help regulate emotions. Many DBT therapists have additional training in this type of work and have experience taking each person’s unique personality into the session to help them effectively develop their wise mind.